Paul admonishes Titus in Titus 3:1-11 regarding doing what is right. He says we are to be law-abiding and do what is good for all not just for ourselves. He tells Titus and all of us to be peaceful and considerate of everyone. If everyone followed these rules, wouldn’t life be much simpler and more enjoyable? It is easier to be generous and kind than argumentative and rude.

Paul says this kind of kinship is profitable for everyone. It is certainly healthier. When we are tense and angry our bodies produce harmful chemicals that destroy our well-being. As Paul says, we are self-condemned. Yet when our minds are at peace and cheerful our bodies are also at peace and healthier.

Paul advises Titus to avoid foolish controversy. Perhaps this refers to the small things in life that often seem to anger us and cause us to be rude and hateful to others. If we as Christians can learn to stand up for the important issues and not worry about the small things, we can be more content and more effective in what we do.

—George and Linda Howton

• Which instruction for Titus is very similar to one of Timothy’s (see Titus 3:1) How does this instruction play itself out in our world today?
• What are some of the reasons we are envious and act hatefully toward others? Do you see or feel any “red lights” that warn you of these actions? How do you overcome these feelings when you do?
• List people who have been especially kind to you lately. What did they do?
• What are some reasons we dislike confrontation in relationships with others? Do you handle confrontation well? Think of those who do. What special characteristics or actions do they have (or take)? Make a list of these.

How Do I Act?

1. Make a firm commitment to avoid anger this week and note how that changes your life. In the instances when you were not able to achieve this goal, think of the warning signs or triggers of the anger. Make a covenant with yourself outlining a plan for when you face conflict. Don’t try to write it in the midst of the conflict!
2. Practice meditation or quiet time alone each day to rid your mind of negative thoughts. Let your family and friends know when that time will be to avoid interruptions.
3. Set out to be extra kind (anonymously) to someone you know this week. Do a kind deed for a stranger this week as well.
4. Make a list of things we can do as a church to handle confrontations more effectively. Post this list on the bulletin board at church or another prominent place emphasizing it in some way.